Persisting through your passion

As always, another week, another post to feed your soul.  This week I want to talk about persisting through to your passion.  There will be times that you begin to question if you can make it or if it is worth it!?  It most certainly is worth it.  

The first thing you have to realize is that you have to mentally gear up.  The mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to CHANGE.  We are what we think and speak.  What are your thoughts around your current situation or about yourself?   The Universe has a way of projecting what we speak as our truth. Visualize yourself achieving your goals.   Positive thoughts create positive outcomes.
  

Second, there are lessons that you have to learn during every season,that lesson is, stay humble.  While you are waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, we should not become disconnect with our Creator.  During this time you are patient and humble.  Timing is everything. Sometimes it is just not your time yet.  Remember not to rush the process. Nothing good comes out of rushing God's plan for your life  (sidenote...I am working on this).

The next thing that is tied to patience is being discipline during your journey.  Many of of you follow the brother named, @Raeholliday on Instagram.  He recently posted this, "whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome."  When you feel like throwing in the towel, throwing up the middle finger (y'all know what am talking about) remember to stay disciplined.  Discipline is an aspect of knowing what you must do and following through.  Disciple is learning how to do the next best step.  

Lastly, you know when you are chasing the right purpose because you are granted everyday with favor and grace. "The more you are thankful, the more you attract things to be thankful for." God would not have brought you this far to let you down.  Thank Him for the mini victories and watch Him bless you.  Graduate is the foundation of blessings.  Being grateful where God has you. Your blessing is on its way.

I look forward to sharing again this week.

Remember to live, love & share

Lo--

Going to the chapel

Going to the chapel and were gonna get married....

Yes, so I am officially engaged!  I can hear all my girlfriends say, "it's about time".  I have know Njeru (my fiancee) for over 10 years.  A lot  can happen in 10 years of learning someone.  You get to see someone pick their nose, hear them snore, and share the best laughs with.

We are currently taking our pre-marital classes at church with our pastor who will be marrying us this Spring of 2016.  

The classes have really revealed how much work we will have to put into our marriage.  It also has revealed the importance of God in our relationship and future family.

Here is what I know for sure:

I am marrying Njeru as a whole complete woman.  He is getting the best version of Lolade.  Now, I am not saying I am perfect but he is getting me as someone who has learned to love every part of myself from my toes to my hair follicles.

I am also learning patience and listening is important in a relationship.

My relationship and walk with God has strengthen and I am so happy to have found my equal who loves God more then me.

I realized that love will fizzle and we both will need to call on God for guidance ("Jesus, take the wheel").

We are also establishing friendships with other married couples and looking at good examples of marriage.

Lastly, we have decided that divorce is not an option. We have committeed to God being apart of our individual lives as well as our marriage 

I am looking forward to having many more years with this man and a life time of journeys.


Thank you for letting me Share :). Remember to live, love & share

See you again on Thursday!

Lo

This is us a year ago.  We traveled to TN to hike the Smokey Mts. 

Don't Give Up!

Am Baaaack!!!   Since I have started my new job and position this summer I have defiantly been on my grind.  This summer has been one of new adventures needless to say.  I made a lot of time for friends, family, the beach,  good food and laughs.

Have you ever started something new and was like "heck nawh" this is too damn hard? Well, I felt like that with my new job.  The more I tried the more I felt overwhelmed.

Here is what I have learned:

1. Anything new is going to be challenging.  You have to give yourself the space and time to make mistakes and learn.  Anything worth doing is worth doing badly first.  What I mean by this is that you never start at your best.

2. You are going to make multiple mistakes. What are you doing to learn from your mistakes?  Confucius said it well, "Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall".

3. Failure teaches you patience.

4. Perseverance has to kick in!  You can not give up.  It is going to be hard.  You are going to be tired but you will make it. If you persist you will win.

5. You have to make sure you are putting good energy in the Universe.  Only speak positive words about yourself, the situation and others ( I am working on this one!).  Your words create your reality.

6. Be kind and show gratitude.  My family has been so supportive, they have been my sounding board  since my transition.  Words cannot say enough.

7. Pray!

A month in, I am not feeling the same as I did the first week.  Don't get me wrong there are still challenges and I am still making mistakes but I have not quit and I  don't plan too.  I hope what I have learned will help you press on.  Remember to live, love and share. What is your recipe for getting through new experiences?

See you again on Thursday!

xo