The Next Right Move

I just read this and wanted to also share this video of our "fairy godmother, Oprah"  I pray it helps you to calm your story in your head and figure out your next move.  Let's start planning and making decisions not based off of our fears and disappointments but based off of our goals and purpose.    

"The way you think about things when your are going through them will define how you'll end up once your're on the other side. Think positively.  Hustle always".  Let the hustle begin!

Watch this video all the way through and press repeat!

Till next time beloved!  Make sure you remember to live, love & share

lo--

Grateful living

I hope everyone is having an extraordinary week.  I am not going to lie I am looking forward to the weekend but so damn GRATEFUL for what God has done in my life this week.  

I am happy about what God has brought be out of, where He has me currently and where He is taking me! Raise your hand if that is you!  Now, things have not been perfect this week at ALL.  I have had to pray through a couple of things and let go of a few things.  

This post is going to be short and to the point.  I want to drop this little gem on everyone.  We have to be better about being grateful.  We might not be where we want to be (I know I am not) but I am working everyday to be a better version of myself then yesterday.  I thank God for the little things knowing that the big things are on their way.  I am humble during this process of my journey.  I am humble because I know 2 things for sure:

1. God will provide 

2. I am stronger then I know

I am also being more conscious these days about what I claim as my truth.  I claim victory, courage, peace, prosperity, and love.  

I pray everyone continues to have an extraordinary week.  If there are bumps along the way remember to pray, let go and stay humble.  

Life is about living, loving & sharing. 

Til next week,


Lo--

Letting Go!!!

Yesterday was confirmation that I need to be comfortable with letting go and letting God.  I realized that some things are out of my control.  The old Lolade would have freaked out and over reacted.  The new Lolade understood that some things are out of my control and I have to be okay with that.  I am quickly realizing that when I have good intentions, and focus on God's plans then I can't go wrong.

Many times I am what I would call a "blessing blocker".  A blessing blocker is someone who gets in their own way, when God is trying to move and shift somethings in your life.

 Letting go and Letting God allows you to have freedom around certain situation.  It does not mean you care less.  I just don't get hung up on the bullshit that's all.  I focus on the plan and develop my focus on what really matters.

I am intentional to what I give my power and time too. I have a choice: I can sit around and complain and lament OR I can be the mover and shaker that God intended me to be (I choose option 2).

If you are not feeling at peace around a situation or a certain someone.  LET IT GO!  Ask God to bring peace and freedom around your struggle.  Ask Him to make you stronger and give you wisdom. Now you have to surrender.  You can't ask God to take over if you are not willing to surrender unto Him.

Yes, you are going to have to wait and stay faithful that He will provide (I am constantly working on myself during the in between time).

Let me know what you are letting go to allow God in.  I will be your prayer partner!


Till next time remember to live, love share and Let GO and Let God!\

Lo--

Ready, Set, GO!

So many times we are in the dreaming and planning stages that we are never in the implementing stage!  What I mean is that we have desires and dreams but we never move from that dreaming stage to actually beginning.

Many times we are either overthinking it, to scared to start, or just keeping it in our heads.  I want to encourage someone out their to move your plan from paper to actually doing it!  I read this quote by Francis of Assisi, "start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible".  Things happens in stages not over night.  Nothing has every been accomplished without a process.  Your dreams that you are aspiring for will be a process.  Understand it is going to take time and you will need to be patient.  You will need a long term view to face the everyday challenges.

You will never know how far you can really go if you don't begin.  Majority of the time you don't have to have it all figured out to begin.  Once you have your plan, resources, and faith you have a recipe for starting the process.  Most of us allow the conversation in our head to delay our "ready, set, go!"  Remember the life you live now is simply made of the stories you have told yourself previously. What is your story you are telling yourself today about your ready, set go!?  Today is the best time to start.  You are either producing excuses or you are  producing results!

Lastly, God has blessed you with the dreams, skills and talent that only you can use to transform the world.

On your mark, get set, GO!

See you again real soon. Remember to live, love & share.


Lo

Persisting through your passion

As always, another week, another post to feed your soul.  This week I want to talk about persisting through to your passion.  There will be times that you begin to question if you can make it or if it is worth it!?  It most certainly is worth it.  

The first thing you have to realize is that you have to mentally gear up.  The mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to CHANGE.  We are what we think and speak.  What are your thoughts around your current situation or about yourself?   The Universe has a way of projecting what we speak as our truth. Visualize yourself achieving your goals.   Positive thoughts create positive outcomes.
  

Second, there are lessons that you have to learn during every season,that lesson is, stay humble.  While you are waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, we should not become disconnect with our Creator.  During this time you are patient and humble.  Timing is everything. Sometimes it is just not your time yet.  Remember not to rush the process. Nothing good comes out of rushing God's plan for your life  (sidenote...I am working on this).

The next thing that is tied to patience is being discipline during your journey.  Many of of you follow the brother named, @Raeholliday on Instagram.  He recently posted this, "whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome."  When you feel like throwing in the towel, throwing up the middle finger (y'all know what am talking about) remember to stay disciplined.  Discipline is an aspect of knowing what you must do and following through.  Disciple is learning how to do the next best step.  

Lastly, you know when you are chasing the right purpose because you are granted everyday with favor and grace. "The more you are thankful, the more you attract things to be thankful for." God would not have brought you this far to let you down.  Thank Him for the mini victories and watch Him bless you.  Graduate is the foundation of blessings.  Being grateful where God has you. Your blessing is on its way.

I look forward to sharing again this week.

Remember to live, love & share

Lo--

Going to the chapel

Going to the chapel and were gonna get married....

Yes, so I am officially engaged!  I can hear all my girlfriends say, "it's about time".  I have know Njeru (my fiancee) for over 10 years.  A lot  can happen in 10 years of learning someone.  You get to see someone pick their nose, hear them snore, and share the best laughs with.

We are currently taking our pre-marital classes at church with our pastor who will be marrying us this Spring of 2016.  

The classes have really revealed how much work we will have to put into our marriage.  It also has revealed the importance of God in our relationship and future family.

Here is what I know for sure:

I am marrying Njeru as a whole complete woman.  He is getting the best version of Lolade.  Now, I am not saying I am perfect but he is getting me as someone who has learned to love every part of myself from my toes to my hair follicles.

I am also learning patience and listening is important in a relationship.

My relationship and walk with God has strengthen and I am so happy to have found my equal who loves God more then me.

I realized that love will fizzle and we both will need to call on God for guidance ("Jesus, take the wheel").

We are also establishing friendships with other married couples and looking at good examples of marriage.

Lastly, we have decided that divorce is not an option. We have committeed to God being apart of our individual lives as well as our marriage 

I am looking forward to having many more years with this man and a life time of journeys.


Thank you for letting me Share :). Remember to live, love & share

See you again on Thursday!

Lo

This is us a year ago.  We traveled to TN to hike the Smokey Mts. 

Not for rent

Who are you renting your space to? Is it people's opinions? doubt? fear? is it the opinions of those closest to you?  Your mind is your sacred real estate.

That's right...unless they are a good tenant, otherwise shut out the extra noise.  When I chose to leave my job last year I did not tell many people about this transition.  Why?  Because I did not need to solicit anyone's opinion on what I valued to be true for myself

Some people felt like I kept a secret from them.  The truth is that when I am alone with my thoughts and with God I can not turn to anyone  and ask "should I do this or not?" When I am with God and myself  I am not seeking consensus but seeking clarity.  Being alone with God in prayer teaches me to TRUST Him alone.

In the mist of life happening you have to be intentional about spending time alone and with God.

Til next week,

Remember to live, love & share.


Lo--