balance Vs. completion

I was talking with 2 women.  One that is a mother, wife, and holds a leadership position at her job.  The other woman who is a wife and holds a leadership position at her job.  We were all having a casual conversation about the topic of work-life balance. This was a passionate discussion on what balance is and how to achieve it with the many hat we wear daily.  I have always chased balance but the way it looked was like a dog chasing it's tail. Does balance really exist?  Can you have it all and maintain your shit, zen, or equilibrium?

I am coming to peace with who I am in the world.  I am learning what I will accept as my truth.  I am learning to love the entire me.  I am learning that it's not about wearing 50 different hats at the same time and being great at everything, at the same time.  Balance is about completion.  I want to live knowing that I am activity engaged with completing my purpose in life. Balance for me is knowing what is important.  When I distinguish what is important and set forth finishing WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT I am left complete and whole.  Balance is dictated by where you are in life.  Distinguish what is MOST IMPORTANT to you. Set expectations and boundaries.   In the conversation with these 2 women we have similar concerns with different perspectives.

What is balance to you?

See you again on Thursday!  Remember to live. love. share. 

Book Club 2.0

Look and see what my lady book club is reading next!

I will keep you posted.  Please pray for me that I do well during the 21 day financial fast and finish the book! Also read along with us and share your experience.  

Till next Thursday.  Remember to live, love, share.

LO --

xo

Tuesday Talk -- Attitude

Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure. The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the fact because you think you are.

Norman Vincent Peale

Can people change?

I need your help in answering these questions.  Can people change?  Do you think after bad habits and mistakes, can people change?  The question is not will you forgive or give a person a second chance; but can someone change their ways for the better?

We all make mistake.  We all have gotten into some shit!  We all wish we did not say or do something.  Can we make a turn for the better?  Can we change?  Old habits are hard to break.  I heard somewhere it takes 30 days to make something a new habit.  So, if someone was a cheater, can they change?  If someone is consistently late for appointments can they change?  

I would like know from you what you think.  Please share with me what you know to be the truth.

Looking forward to reading your answers.  

LO,

Ps. Remember to live, love, share  

Don't Give Up!

Am Baaaack!!!   Since I have started my new job and position this summer I have defiantly been on my grind.  This summer has been one of new adventures needless to say.  I made a lot of time for friends, family, the beach,  good food and laughs.

Have you ever started something new and was like "heck nawh" this is too damn hard? Well, I felt like that with my new job.  The more I tried the more I felt overwhelmed.

Here is what I have learned:

1. Anything new is going to be challenging.  You have to give yourself the space and time to make mistakes and learn.  Anything worth doing is worth doing badly first.  What I mean by this is that you never start at your best.

2. You are going to make multiple mistakes. What are you doing to learn from your mistakes?  Confucius said it well, "Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall".

3. Failure teaches you patience.

4. Perseverance has to kick in!  You can not give up.  It is going to be hard.  You are going to be tired but you will make it. If you persist you will win.

5. You have to make sure you are putting good energy in the Universe.  Only speak positive words about yourself, the situation and others ( I am working on this one!).  Your words create your reality.

6. Be kind and show gratitude.  My family has been so supportive, they have been my sounding board  since my transition.  Words cannot say enough.

7. Pray!

A month in, I am not feeling the same as I did the first week.  Don't get me wrong there are still challenges and I am still making mistakes but I have not quit and I  don't plan too.  I hope what I have learned will help you press on.  Remember to live, love and share. What is your recipe for getting through new experiences?

See you again on Thursday!

xo