wants vs.wishes

The journey continues y'all.  I have been off the scene for a minute now and a friend recently reminded me about all the great post I shared.  Plus, she mentioned my journey.  In less then a week we will be half way through the year. Friends and I sat around the grill talking about this year's life

lessons.  This group was not shy of expressing the highs and lows of half the year.  IT's NOT OVER!  That is what we all agreed about.  The best is yet to come.  What I noticed is that all of us had goals and ambitions that we were ready to put to the the test.

So enough catching up and on to the lesson!  Jack Canfield, the author of Chicken Soup for the Soul posted  his 101 Lifetime Goals "list". The list consisted of all the things he wanted to accomplished in his life.    See below are some of what is on his list.  The bold items are things he as already accomplished.

Personal Achievements

51. Appear on the Phil Donahue Show (deleted because it is no longer airing, but I have appeared on the Larry King Show, Fox and Friends, The Today Show and Good Morning America, as well as more than 100 other television shows and more than 700 radio shows)

52. Appear on the Oprah Winfrey Show

53. Write a best selling book (61 best-sellers so far)

54. Make one million dollars in one year ($20 million best year so far, plus $20 million one year when we sold one of my companies)

55. Golf 18 holes under 90 (Deleted due to ruptured disc)

56. Run a 10k race

57. Run 14 miles in less than 3 hours

58. Meet a U.S. president while he/she is still in office (I had lunch at the White House but President Bush was traveling in Texas)

59. Build or buy my dream house

60. Own a vacation home in Hawaii

61. Own my own pool table

His list got me thinking about wants vs. wishes.  Do we really know what we want?  Are we clear that what we want takes persistence?  Our wishes are those things we give little effort to and it would make things a little more comfortable.  Think about it, you say it all the time, "I wish I could afford those Louboutin's in every color". "I wish I could win the Mega Millions,  it would change everything".  Little effort.

I want to start my own list.  Starting your list and writing it down gives it power. The clique saying, "out of sight, out of mind", is so true.  If you don't write it down and see it and review it, and study it, then it just becomes another wish.

Here is the outline to making your wants:

                                                1. you decide what exactly you want 

                                                2. you write it down 

                                                3. make a plan

                                                4. you have to take action on the plan

                                                5. you create benchmarks along the way 

You can wish for a baggin' body and it will only remain a wish until you decided that you want to live a healthy life.  Here is an example: you determined exactly how much you want to lose.  Then, you write it down.  You make plan to start.  You start to workout and eat healthy daily.  You meet with a trainer, you join a gym, and you buy healthy foods.  Along the way you weigh yourself at the 3 week mark of working out, you might even make the workout a little more harder along the way.  Looking at this example also reminds me that your list is a process.

So, I don't want y'all to just read this post, I want you to challenge yourself to think about your own list and create what you want.  Get a journal and start creating your list!  It does not have to be 101, but what every it is let it be your ultimate best and commit to it.  I am working on my list and will share my list with you in the future.  In the meantime, start your list.  We only get better when we remember to live, love and share.  Share your list with me and we can hold each other accountable.

I look forward to seeing you again on Thursday (teaching/sharing with you is on my list).


Lo,
xo